My wife sent me this article:
I liked it and here are my thoughts.
We look for the fast track
I have a friend who is trying Dr. Bernstein this week and I am sad for them. I have been in pretty bad mental states with regard to my weight before and know how hopeless you can feel about it. The fast track does not work. It took me years to be the size I am, and it will take years to come to a place where I feel fit and stable.
Obesity and Overweight is a disease. I have it. When I will be fit, I will still have it. Addicts of drugs and alcohol always have to be cognizant of their relationship to their coping mechanism and so do people with food issues. You can’t manage a disease in a fast track manner, they are just quick ‘fixes’ and in some cases can do permanent damage.
We see a weight goal as the finish line
I get asked almost everyday what my target weight is. I deliberately don’t have one. In many ways it is because I truly don’t know as my lowest weight as an adult is 325 lbs. This has had the delicious side effect that I am always winning because I am feeling better and that is the real goal.
We diet for the wrong reasons
It can’t be for someone else. When I got married, I said I would become fit for my wife – that failed. When we had our first daughter Avery, I said I would become fit for her – that failed. When we had our second daughter Adelaide, I said I would become fit for her – that failed. When we had our third daughter Arleigh, I said I would become fit for her – that failed. When we moved to Calgary for me to lead the Library Foundation, I said I would get fit – that failed.
This is for me. For my life. Because I deserve to feel the best that I can. I deserve to care for myself and love myself and honour the amazing fact of my own existence. There is a great quote by the biologist Lewis Thomas, that speaks to a core belief of mine: (refer to the combining of a sperm and egg)
“Statistically the probability of us being here is so small that you would think the mere fact of existence would keep us all in a contented dazzlement of surprise.”
We have unrealistic expectations and We aren’t flexible
Do you know what is realistic? a 1/2 to 1 lb a week. That’s it. 26 – 52 lbs a year. Safe, healthy and achievable. If you have more than that, you may not be eating for the long term. People often as me about my diet. As in, how is the diet going that you are doing. The FAT Project is not a diet. I am attempting to eat now as I will for the rest of my life. I have been at this for more than eight months and flexibility to adapt all the things that come with living ones life has been the key contributor to this project.